A wise woman told me that she likes when people let pictures of themselves go on facebook that aren't perfect, because that person is trusting you to like them even if they aren't perfect. Tonight I watched a group of women take picture after picture looking for the perfect one where they all look good. They spent over 45 minutes taking pictures of themselves while the rest of us sat at tables waiting for them to finish. I was irritated that we were all waiting on them. Then I realized, how sad. These women are wasting so much time trying to make everyone look perfect instead of just being in the moment. We were at a bridal shower where we should be celebrating the bride-to-be and her new life that awaits. It put a damper on the whole shower for me.
The thing is, I know these women. I know that in reality they don't even like each other. Yet the façade they are trying to present the world is, look at us, we look beautiful and we get along great. There was so much fake at this bridal shower that it has taken me over an hour to decompress. I didn't like who I was while I was there, because I put on the fake smile and acted like everything was perfect, when it isn't.
I needed a scene from Mean Girls where everyone was actually honest and then trusted each other to catch them when they fall. Wouldn't it be great if life was like a movie? If I could choose a movie to narrate my life, I would pick something stupid funny like Night at the Roxbury. Just kidding! Really though, healthy people have healthy relationships. And I find that I want real friendships, with real people where we can be honest with each other.
You know what though? I got to come home to some pretty amazing people, who love me just as I am, imperfections and all. And all those women I was with tonight are part of a life that I have left behind. I don't have to deal with that fakeness consistently anymore. So I am going to put tonight behind me, realizing that my life is richer and fuller for the people I have in it. And I'm going to enjoy moments instead of trying to get the perfect picture out of it.
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